Good-bye Action Run Jones: July 15, 2010

I actually meant to write this post the night it happened but a lot has happened since then and I’ve collected my thoughts and wanted to write something that memorialized our beloved hamster, Action Run Jones. That’s what my kids named him when we first brought him home from the pet store January 2009. At first they wanted to name him “Race” to signify his quickness. I suggested another more appropriate name and thus we landed on “Action”.

Action was a quick little guy, pretty independent from the start. Although he was terrified of us in the beginning, he warmed up pretty quickly, although he preferred to run around as opposed to being carried and cuddled. I was always awestruck by his speed and his ability to disappear from site. We were always giving him the much needed space required to expend his energy — sometimes we were not as diligent at keeping an eye on him. The cleaners were the first to experience his disappearing act, having opened his cage just a slight to have a look at him. Before they knew it he had taken off into the open doorway. We were left a somber message later when we returned home. The cleaners were “so sorry” but they looked everywhere for hours and they weren’t able to find action. We had thought his was gone but we kept his cage open, left for dinner, and lo-and-behold when we returned, there he was resting in his cage.

There were a few times that he wound up in the walls. The first time we hammered the walls, hoping the sound would draw him out. After about 8 hours he finally came out, but not after he had made multiple trips to set up second home in that cozy crawl space, complete with cheek-fulls of food and shavings. The second time he ended up in the wall, he happened to find a small hole in our vanity. That hole led to the back of the wall in the upstairs bedroom…. then down to the wall just behind the kitchen. This time it was going to be more challenging. We would have to open up the wall underneath the kitchen cupboards somehow and find him. We had left Action in the wall overnight, hoping he would stay put. the next day Shawn put his ear to the wall, listening for scratching or squeaking — anything that would give us a clue as to where Action was. Then he used a drywall knife and started opening it up. And there he was, just sitting there with a little drywall dust on his face and body. He seemed composed as usual but he was fine. We vowed never to let him out of his cage ever again… yeah, right!

We still let Action run around and gave him license to chew up our downstairs carpets as long as we closed the doors and any potential openings. Once in a while we’d let him run up the stairs, and seemed to do so with finesse. He would always find that perfect spot on the carpet that gave him leverage to pull himself up to the next step. Once he got going he could go up a few stairs within a few seconds. But he also loved to run on the wheel and he could do it for minutes at a time. Apparently, though the amount of food he took in exceeded his daily exercise. So overtime Action became more portly and this slowed him down. But he also got older — I kept forgetting that hamsters don’t live more than a few years — the minutes on the wheel became less and less, and the time on the staircase took longer with more strained effort.

Action was slowing down. By his first birthday, Action started having respiratory problems. You could hear it when he slept and even when he was awake. His breathing was laboured and his exercise “times” found Action, for the most part, in his cage all curled up and cozy among the tissue paper and shavings. He loved to envelop himself in these things when he rested. Over time, rest became more mainstay and Action became more comfortable in this state. He came out of his cage on occasion to run around, but no sooner had he come out, he was drawn back again. Maddie and Nate played less and less with him because he rarely cam out to play. This was a sign for things to come. Soon Action began experiencing other health problems: he had developed an eye infection, and while we were able to nurse it back to somewhat ‘normal’, it was apparent that Action had lost the energy he once had.

Maddie found him after coming home from day camp. Action’s head was by his running wheel and he wasn’t moving. It was strange because he normally slept in the piled-up heap of tissue and shavings in the corner. We had to tell the kids that he was gone. Needless to say it was a difficult night. Shawn convinced the kids to write a good-bye letter to Action. In the meantime, Shawn built a little box to bury our little hamster, which Nathan lovingly labelled, “RIP Action Run Jones”

Here was Madelyn’s Good-bye to Action:

Action, my pet, I loved you oh so much. You meant more than the world to me. You were happy and squeaked and ran like crazy. Not even a quarter of the things you meant to me. Good-bye Action and I forever will love you. Your owner, Madelyn RIP

Here was Nathan’s Good-bye to Action:

Action, you meant everything to me and had so much fun together, we played find action, pat a cake and other fun stuff. I wish I could hold you one more time and play with you one more time! BYE BYE Action you’ll always be in my heart. Love Nathan

We buried Action in his special box the next day — the box filled with some food, some shavings and his favourite chew toy!. We cried one last time and said good-bye.

We love you Action. You were our first pet and you showed us how to love. We’ll see you in Heaven! Love, your family

Look at yourself after watching this

Thanks to @edcabral for bringing this inspirational video to my attention! You made my day Ed!

We tried so hard to make things better for our kids that we made them worse….

I caught this on an email sent to me from my husband’s uncle. I normally don’t subscribe to chain emails but this one was poignant and thought-provoking. I didn’t realize how much I had taken for granted. Coming from a much simpler background I had grown to appreciate the lessons that those humble beginnings taught me. But I’m not sure the struggles I experienced were lessons that I explicitly passed on to my children. So I read it to my kids the other day and for the first time I stirred a reaction in them. Please read it and pass it on…….

Paul Harvey Writes:

We tried so hard to make things better for our kids that we made them worse. For my grandchildren, I’d like better.I’d really like for them to know about hand me down clothes and homemade ice cream and leftover meat loaf sandwiches. I really would.

I hope you learn humility by being humiliated, and that you learn honesty by being cheated.

I hope you learn to make your own bed and mow the lawn and wash the car.

And I really hope nobody gives you a brand new car when you are sixteen.

It will be good if at least one time you can see puppies born and your old dog put to sleep.

I hope you get a black eye fighting for something you believe in.

I hope you have to share a bedroom with your younger brother/sister. And it’s all right if you have to draw a line down the middle of the room, but when he wants to crawl under the covers with you because he’s scared, I hope you let him.

When you want to see a movie and your little brother/sister wants to tag along, I hope you’ll let him/her.

I hope you have to walk uphill to school with your friends and that you live in a town where you can do it safely.

On rainy days when you have to catch a ride, I hope you don’t ask your driver to drop you two blocks away so you won’t be seen riding with someone as uncool as your Mom.

If you want a slingshot, I hope your Dad teaches you how to make one instead of buying one.

I hope you learn to dig in the dirt and read books.

When you learn to use computers, I hope you also learn to add and subtract in your head.

I hope you get teased by your friends when you have your first crush on a boy\girl, and when you talk back to your mother that you learn what ivory soap tastes like.

May you skin your knee climbing a mountain, burn your hand on a stove and stick your tongue on a frozen flagpole.

I don’t care if you try a beer once, but I hope you don’t like it.. And if a friend offers you dope or a joint, I hope you realize he is not your friend.

I sure hope you make time to sit on a porch with your Grandma/Grandpa and go fishing with your Uncle.

May you feel sorrow at a funeral and joy during the holidays.

I hope your mother punishes you when you throw a baseball through your neighbor’s window and that she hugs you and kisses you at Hannukah/Christmas time when you give her a plaster mold of your hand.

These things I wish for you – tough times and disappointment, hard work and happiness. To me, it’s the only way to appreciate life.

Written with a pen.. Sealed with a kiss. I’m here for you. And if I die before you do, I’ll go to heaven and wait for you.

Send this to all of your friends. We secure our friends, not by accepting favors, but by doing them.

1st Anniversary of MJ’s Death: June 25th, 2010

I still remember first hearing about Michael Jackson — first on Twitter where there was massive confusion between the LA Times and CNN about whether he was in a coma or had passed away. It’s still pretty hard to believe he’s gone. I’ve sourced some pretty cool videos that pay tribute to his contributions to this world.

This one’s called the Michael Jackson Medley from Kurt Schneider and Tsui

Gone too Soon

Heal the World